1 Corinthians 13:4-7 "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hope, always perseveres." When I read this scripture, the words that were brought to my attention was "love is patient ". Which is why the title of this blog is " If he cares.He will wait".. I never knew how important my body was until I hit rock bottom with love. Growing up as a teenager in an African home my parents never really talked to us about sex nor relationships. I basically had to learn on my own, I made mistakes a lot of them and one of the most important ones was how much I didn't value my body. I came across relationships that weren't healthy and God fearing. Yes, we claimed to be Christians and went to church every Sunday but how we lived in our relationship wasn't God fearing. I allowed the word "I love you" become poison. Losing my virginity outside of marriage and allowing myself to fade away from God caused me to hit rock bottom. My life wasn't the same. I allow myself to accept being in a relationship means giving your all including your identity. One of my exes once told me " I can't be with you if I can't have sex with my girlfriend. A relationship without sex is nothing. Being mentally attracted to each other is fine but sex is what brings us together. It shows compassion." hearing this from someone who I thought loved and cared about me, I thought it was normal but I was wrong. After my last relationship, I made decisions to recommit my life to Christ. I was tired of the hurt, the lies, and the embarrassment. I learned to value myself. I learned how to use the word "No". Ladies, if he loves you or cares about you, he will wait. I love you is a verb, a verb is an action. A man who cares about you shouldn't make you feel uncomfortable with your decisions on not having sex. Someone who cares about you will be patient but also allow themselves to learn how to adapt to your lifestyle. Don't ever allow a man words become poison in your life. So many of us are poisoned with the thoughts of sex in relationships shows compassion for one another. DO NOT be fooled! If a man loves you he will be patient and won't ever dishonor your decision. He will "want " to adapt with your decisions because of how much he cares for you. Pray for the type of man you want in your life. My mother once told me "patience is key to everything in your life. The spiritual world might seem like a joke but trust me God is answering your prayers". So I encourage whoever is reading this to have patient, faith and don't allow the word "I love you " to become poison within your life. Put God first in everything you do and slay!
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Does going to church every Sunday makes you a Christian?
Some of us live a double life. We live to please ourselves and also try to please God. During the week we do all kinds of things; whether it's living a life of sexual immorality, watching pornography, getting high and/or drunk with friends, etc. But when Sunday comes, we wear our pretty outfits, go to church and lift up our hands to God in worship. This kind of behavior raises the following question: Does going to church every Sunday make you a Christian? I grew up in a Christian home. My parents taught me to fear God at a young age. We went to church every Sunday. But regardless, at a certain age, I wanted to hang out with friends on weekends. If there was a party at a mutual friends house, I always tried my best to be there. I knew that that clubbing, drinking, smoking and living the restless lifestyle wasn't for me. However, I wanted to live my life. My friends claimed to be Christians as well. But none of us really took our Christianity life seriously. Many times, I wanted to do whatever I wanted because my motto was “you only live once”. I felt like church people did not like having fun. In other words, people who take Christian life seriously don’t know how to relax, have fun and enjoy life. Now that I am getting older, I have realized that it is wrong. Life has taught me that going to church every Sunday does not make me a Christian. For many years, I let a lot of things distract my life. I did not really understand that Christianity is a lifestyle. I did not understand that when you have accepted Jesus-Christ as your Lord, Savior of your life, you begin a new life with him. That new life requires to quiet living life for "you” and begin to live for Jesus. When Jesus is your Lord and Savior, one cannot live a double life. This mean to do the wrong things during the week, and pretend to be a godly person when you go to church on Sunday. God must be in the center of your EVERYDAY life! The way you dress, speak, movies you watch, music you listen must reflect your faith and principles that give value to your life. The Bible says: “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.” (Matth.6:24). A Christian is a person who has the mind set in Christ. A person who strive to apply biblical principles every day and everywhere. For example, a Christian girl should not dress the way that dishonors God during the week such as wearing clothes that exposes intimate parts of body on pretense of dressing sexy and trying to look godly on Sunday at church. But she must dress the way that gives glory to God every time. Is it not written that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit? (1 Corinthians 6:19-20). Another, perfect example that helps clarify this point of view is fitness. If you want to lose weight or get toned you have to imply the lifestyle with it. For example, you have to eat healthy food, have enough sleep, and exercise regularly. Christian life also requires some changes in the person’s lifestyle. You have to imply to the lifestyle that reflect your faith, which requires to break out bad habits such as sexual immoralities, clubbing, using curse words, drinking, smoking, and wearing inappropriate attires. If you are in a relationship sex outside of marriage it has to stop. Why? Because make changes in your lifestyle by promoting Christian values is what makes one a Christian. Not just going to church on Sunday morning. To sum up, if this reflection speaks to your heart, I encourage you to repent. All you have to do is to ask God for forgiveness. Our God is a merciful God. He will forgive you right the way. He will forgive you and forget. Romans 12:2 says "Don't copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think." This verse also applies to clubbing, drunk nights, sexual moralities, and any other form of immorality. It's hard to give up a life that everyone calls “fun.” But trust me, the outcome will be thousand times better than what you can ever imagine. By applying Christian principles in your life you will still have fun. Christian life is not boring. Christian have fun too, and this is what makes us different than other people. People usually say “We only live once.” It is true but live your life once but in the way that gives glory to God. Remember that Christianity is a lifestyle, going to church on Sunday does not make you a Christian. As I lay in bed, I'm thinking about everything that I have been through in my life, and WOW!!! There is a God. I am a living witness of his existence and his love. I grew up with so much Doubts. I Would ask myself "God why arent you listening to me " or "Is there really a God" . I used to think that life was never going to get any better for me.
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